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Cory Jane, rugby player with the Vodafone Wellington Lions and Hurricanes and Mike McRoberts, TV presenter from TV3, are the first two Dads to be featured as part of the extra-ordinary Dads campaign. This campaign aims to spark conversations about what makes a good Dad, as Dads share stories about doing extra ordinary things with their children, taking time to play with, listen to encourage them and to create strong positive family relationships.
To start this campaign we have developed three wonderful posters. Two of the posters feature Cory and Cassius Jane, while the other poster features Mike McRoberts. Please click on the posters so you can see and read them more easily.
If you want to request copies of the posters or find out more about the 'extra-ordinary Dads' campaign please email Jigsaw's Communication Advisor, Brad Houlahan at brad@jigsaw.org.nz
Art Exhibition
This is being exhibited in Wellington at Capital E! during September and October 2008.
Highlighting the role of Dads from children's perspective is also important and Jigsaw in partnership with Berhampore primary school in Wellington created an exhibition about "things children like doing with their Dad" (and other father figures). This is being exhibited in Wellington at Capital E! during September 2008.
Thank you to all the pupils from Berhampore primary school for sharing your stories and beautiful pictures with us. Here are just a few of the pictures from the Exhibition:
Fathers' day event in Wellington 2008
To celebrate Fathers day in Wellington, Jigsaw held a free pirate show at Capital E!. Captain Fearless Fickletummy the pirate had children and their families dancing, singing, playing tug of rope and brandishing balloon swords and he weaved his pirate tale. A great swash-buckling time was had by all.
Afterwards, Cory Jane, Vodafone Wellington Lions rugby player shared his experience of being a Dad and lucky families received passes to the zoo, Wellington swimming pools and a Vodafone Wellington Lions rugby game.
Thank you to the following organisations who generously supported this event:
• Capital E! • Classic Hits • DIY Dads • Wellington City Council swimming pools • Vodafone Wellington Lions.
Panel discussion at the Jigsaw National Conference
At the Jigsaw National Conference 2008 we were honoured to have (clockwise from left) Brian Gardner, Joe Waru, Brian Bedggood, Trevor Shailer and Hoori Glassie share their experiences of being a Dad. All five fathers spoke about what has worked well for them, what the challenges have been and what had been the biggest learning in being a Dad. Their stories were shared in such an honest, heartfelt and entertaining way and really connected with the conference participants inspiring us to think about Dads in a new way.
Thank you to all of the Dads for sharing your experiences with us.
Some snippets:
• This is the first time I have talked about being a Dad in 30 odd years
• You can only pass on to your kids who you are
• Keep your promises to your children
• Its important to be able to catch yourself in the moment and reflect
• When talking about kids to other Dads lets provide solutions. It's important for Dads to talk about the struggles and/or the stresses but it would also be good to talk about the insights
• In wanting the best for my kids what's important is my relationship with my wife
• (my fathering skills) started with seeing what my own father did
• As a father you can be present and you can create presence
• Keep it real and express your emotions
• It's okay to admit to being wrong even if it's hard to be shown up by a 7 year old
• When it comes to kids we only have one shot at it, so make every moment count, and I do that every day
• Being a Dad is an awesome experience. I thank my daughter for the opportunity of being a father from the bottom of my heart
• I treat my kids as their own people not as extensions of me, they are not my property, I don't own them
• My kids are able to argue and get cross with me
• Talking with other Dads works
• Experiencing being so angry it scared me… but having the ability to step away and talk to people
• Quality time is a myth… what children need is time
• I'm always learning… I'm not controlled by my history
• Confronting the fear of not knowing what to do, or what cry was for what want. Not knowing if baby is breathing
• The challenge now is to provide the physical, spiritual, financial and intellectual support that (my kids) require on their journey
• My tamariki have taught me far and away more than I have ever taught them. This is how the cycle is supposed to go round
• One of the things Dads find most difficult is to talk love talk to their kids… I think that's because they've never heard it. One of the challenges for me is to make sure my kids hear it all the time and have the sense of hearing it in the action and not just the korero.
For more information about being a Dad go to:
www.diyfather.com
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